Well it’s Valentine’s Day this week. For those hard core romantics this is a time of pure bliss. For those who are lonely it is another knife in the heart. And for those who are practical it is just another commercially driven day to make you spend unnecessarily. Yep, another opportunity to reflect on exactly what is going on in your life….another opportunity to reflect on and see “Is this me….Is this what I want?”
In terms of personal growth, this is an important day….an important marker….because it offers glaring opposites if you are not happy with where you are. This includes those that have a partner to share this day with because just having a partner does not equate happiness. In fact we would say that many couples hate this day because they know they are not truly happy. Oftentimes this causes the unhappy person to reflect on their partner and the qualities that they do not like. Many feel these incompatibilities are the root cause of all that ails them. Maybe,….but there should certainly be some self-reflection to know yourself well enough to even know what the incompatibilities are. So for anyone unhappy, it is really a reminder that self-reflection is still needed. And then change….from the inside out. Because the truth is, those that are happy with themselves enjoy this holiday whether they are single or not. They either radiate love to those around them and feel the joy or turn to things that bring them joy all by themselves…..no partner required. And it does not mean those that are single want to remain that way. They just love what is around them and then daydream that special one in. And it does not mean spending one dime unless you have to. Free hugs and talking to others or nature doesn’t cost a thing.
So for those who need a bit of self-reflection, we recommend starting at the beginning. Which would be…”What is Love?” Sounds simple enough, but our understanding is that we have only been in the beginning stages of grasping the meaning. Let us give an example. Let’s talk unconditional vs conditional love. Now for most, this is an easy conversation on the surface. We are sure you can reflect around and put people in one or the other camp. But let’s talk further. Think of someone you love. And then reflect upon why. Take a second now and list the reasons why. Here are some common ones: a good provider kind, funny, loyal, let’s me do what I want, handsome, sexy, great smile, active, common interests, listens to me, talks with me, etc.… Do you have a list? All of those things you want? Now take them all away. Take every quality away from that person. Would you still feel the same about them? In the 3D expression it would be hard to say yes…..And why? Well, to be honest, it is because we usually are choosing those who can fill a need. And again, in the 3D expression, that is certainly understandable because most of us equate love with filling a need. So the truth is that most of us may understand conditional love well….but what about unconditional love???
As we move forward into these new experiences, one of unity and love, we will start to grasp the concepts of unconditional love. A basic concept of unconditional love is simply that you love something just because…no fill in the blank. So it doesn’t matter about the earthly situation….you want to be around this person regardless. Now isn’t that something to chew on…..that you would want to hang out with someone regardless of what they could do for you, or hole they could fill, etc. Now again, we want to preface that you can even love someone unconditionally that is a bully or abusive….but only from afar. You should love yourself enough first before others and not tolerate abusive behavior.
So, how often does this happen? How often do we give unconditional love or is unconditional love given to us? Well, in a world where we are to deny the known and go into new understandings our belief is …..A lot. Yep, it is happening all the time right under our noses and we do not realize it. And what we are talking about here is mainly in the form of unconditional love given freely to us, but we are unaware. For certain there is an overage of darkness and domination and control, but that does not negate the love being actively sent our way. Now you need to grow to see and feel it. Can you see that everything around you is actually of the source? Can you see nature? Do you understand? Do you know that in the oneness of all things that that piece of bread you ate today came from wheat... that came from a plant... that came from a seed... that in the oneness of all knew it would grow and be harvested and then baked into that bread that you just ate. And it did it out of love for you….knowing it was for you. And you can apply the same concept to animals that agree to come in to be eaten….and yes, some most certainly do….or at least that is what we have been told. All of the loving and care to ensure your learning experience was a success. And don’t get us started on the guides and how they feel about us.
Please believe us; we know by experience what it feels like to have times of loneliness. In all honesty it is depressing and it sucks. And it extra sucks to be in a relationship and feel lonely…..wondering how in the world did this happen? Normally during these times people do all kinds of things to either avoid the loneliness or dive head first into it….seeing how low you can go. Sound familiar? Luckily in 3D our guides would help us get out of it at times. This is because we really did not understand our co-creative abilities. Remember what we said, you get what you are thinking. So if you are dwelling on loneliness or sorrow or depression, etc.…..Then the universe thinks that is the experience you want….so it gives you more of what you are dwelling on. This was a vicious cycle that we were unaware of. And we mean "were aware of" because now you know. So you are expected to learn how to manifest differently.
We are only going to begin to scratch the surface of this in the blog and on the next show because there is actually so much to understand and un-do. But for now, let me tell you this. It is our understanding that every human in this expression was indeed created as 2 halves of a whole. Meaning, everyone has a soul mate….that other basic half. Your essence, the basic template, is the same. All were created this way with a soul mate. In separate terminology, it is our understanding that twin flames also exists, but they are members of the same soul group….not you soul mate. It is also our understanding that most of the time, in our many reincarnations that we do not come in at the same time as our soul mate. Usually one lovingly stays behind because they want to oversee and ensure that the one they want to be with the most has the learning experience that they desired.
So, does that mean people cannot have a wonderful loving relationship if their soul mate is not incarnate at the same time? No, absolutely not. For those lives, if having this loving relationship is a part of the plan, then usually a soul family member easily can fill the bill for that lifetime. And an interesting fact is that sometimes in steering a person to the one they were supposed to have an encounter (either short or long) with, that soul mate who stayed back may just walk into that other person just to have you magnetically be drawn to them so that desired learning experience can occur. And if it is meant not to last….well, that walk-in soul mate would leave at just the right moment for the failure of the relationship to occur because that was a desired learning experience. So, whether you realize it or not, your other half is very present in your learning experience because they really love you. Also remember that we said we were in a time of overage of darkness, so there are entities out there whose purpose is to break up good relationships. So we go back to the beginning again…learning about self, protection, and discernment…..all keys to figuring out if this overage is the cause and not the partner.
For those incarnate with their soul mate, it is usually for a particular purpose. It is our understanding that during these times, there are more of these couples present than in the past. And it makes sense. The potentiation of energies given off from these couples will certainly affect the energies around them. Just living a happy life without notice or fanfare is enough to raise the frequencies…and many are here to do just that. But for others, there are different missions….however, all will aid in the rising of frequencies in whatever they do. And yes, they are pulled together like magnets. It does not matter about age, sex, religion, nationality, or any other 3D barrier you can think of. So their union could look unusual or unacceptable to some. But this is part of the point….to breakdown the known and see all the different possibilities of how love can “look”. There is so much to learn.
Now many of you probably want to hear more about soul mates….or just someone to share life with….and we will talk more about this on tomorrow's show. But for now, we challenge you to see this day and reflect on how it truly makes you feel about you. If it brings you joy then great. But if not, are you ready to change? Are you ready to grow through this?
Chris and Joanna